Are You Serious??? My Cell Phone Tho?

 We are in another technology revolution.It's crazy.

Believe it or not, I have been hearing and reading from many men that the type of cell phone a woman carries matters. Some have even gone so far to say we now live in 2010 which means that you should have a touch screen or a smart phone. Some men have said they won't date a woman who doesn't have those two types of phones.

Are you freaking kidding me? I think that's ridiculous! Increasingly, people (not specific to one race or gender) are becoming materialistic where we are defining ourselves and each other by how much we have, what we have, and how much we pay for it! I'm not oblivious to the fact that this has always been around, but it seems to appear that even more people, especially college graduates, are so caught up in the materialistic.


Well, I have one question for men and women who base their decision to date someone on the materialistic: What happened to the individual being a key factor in dating?


I am really trying to understand how something as a cell phone became a deal breaker. For me, it is not economically intelligent to be a prospective grad student trying to save money to ease the large amount of debt I'm about to stack up, but still paying $130/month for my Blackberry. Oh honey, that thing will get chucked after the 2 year contract is over. I will gladly get me a flip pre-paid phone from Walmart and use my google chat to dial people.



But, of course I'm keeping the money or "living within my means" in perspective. So, why does it matter what type of phone someone have that will determine whether you will date someone? Then, we wonder about the plight of relationships and marriage. Clarification: All marriages are on the decline in relation to their population.


At the end of the day, a phone still does its original purpose and calls people. Now that no one calls, every phone has the SMS text feature, so the only difference between the phones is the make, look, Internet capability, and $$$$$.


Let's base the process of selecting a partner, lover, mate, etc. off something other than as silly and materialistic as a cell phone. I even have a problem with people who can't look past the wrapping of the present (how someone dresses) and see the true gift in a person. Money buys clothes, shoes, cell phones, cars, & pays for our grooming, but not every person has money.


I pose this challenge. Get to know the person first before your deal breakers start calling play action and you miss out on a beautiful spirit. If that person can't dress, their hair is always just not on point, you always see them in sweats, etc. Get to know them! We pass these people by and guess what, that could be a man or woman in grad school, struggling at the moment for the larger price of making it in the end.


Let your superficialities GO!!!!! Let's be realistic in our deal breakers and our approach to dating.