Double Standards?!

We live in a world where double standards have become the norm. While we may not all agree with them and some of us may even attempt to fight them, one way or another we get boxed in or box someone else in with these so-called double standards.



When men sleep with multiple women, he is just sowing his oats or being a man. When a woman does it, it is not looked upon as sexual liberation and freedom, but it is demonized as ho-ish behavior and she is no longer an attractive candidate as wifey... she is now jump-off material. Men will sleep with her, but not lock her down. On the flip side, women will keep sleeping with the promiscuous man in hopes of being locked down as wifey, knowing damn well he will continue to cheat. Not always, but a high likelihood he will.



That is the most common double standard.Just used it as an example, but there are many more double standards that exist in our every day life. From women who expect men to pay for every outing or meal. To men who believe that just because he pays he is entitled to sex. You may be thinking how is that a double standard, here's how: If a woman paid for everything (You know this happens) and a man is not putting in any money, then she would be entitled to all the sex, cooking, cleaning, and whatever she wants! Right?! Somehow when the tables are reversed, it's no longer ideal.


Even in the work place, if a Black man responds to a comment made with a stern voice and strong opinions he is being assertive. A Black woman who does the same thing is labeled as a bitch, angry, aggressive, bitter, and in desperate need of some sex to make her happy again. A double standard that plays on the stereotypes of Black women.


So, I would love to say let's get rid of these double standards! But in reality there are some I am not willing to give up like men offering their seat to a woman, opening doors, and pulling out chairs. Oh, and paying for the first date!


I personally live by the philosophy that if I invite you out, then I pay, but if you invite me out.. cough up the cash player. You want my time and to be in my company, not the other way around.


I do believe that as a woman if you call yourself independent, then you need to be independent enough to help cover the cost or pay it all for a particular outing. Again, I don't pay anything for the first three outings, but after that I'll surprise you by taking the check. (Have to send that subliminal message that I don't need you, but I want you. Men tend to forget that.)



Keep them all, some, or none? Tough! But double standards exist and they are beginning to destroy the creation of relationships because people are becoming so blind to the if I do this, you should or should not do this philosophy.


Let's be better about making up our own rules and not following the crowd because clearly not every one is doing it right in their relationship, marriage, etc. Are you mature enough to recognize your double standards?


The majority is not, it's okay. Takes a strong group to roll with the minority and go against the grain.