A Sixth Sense: Ex Radar

 I just love this!

I have been a little absent lately. Not just from blogging, but from everything in life to just take a breather and figure out where am I really going. To no avail, I'm still searching for that answer. In the meantime, I finally made a step towards one of my goals for 2011 which is to become physically fit.


As soon as I start moving, just moving, even though its the beginning, guess who comes back around. I feel as if any time I am in the process of making progress an ex comes knocking. And not just one either. It's like exes have a sixth sense.


First, an ex from a couple years back who told me the reason why we broke up was due to the fact that he wasn't comfortable falling in love. A few years removed from the relationship and hearing this same excuse multiple times already now I just quietly blink, nod to myself, and say ok. I mean what is there to say?! Then, one lovely morning or afternoon on facebook chat he decides to reveal that he still loves me and that is the reason why we can no longer be friends. This, of course, is followed by a 'delete' on facebook. I chuckled because little did he know I had been praying on what to do with him since I no longer needed his negativity in my life and lo' and behold he moved himself.

Then, last week after months that my facebook account had been deactivated, I receive a friend request. *bbm confused face*


Now the second ex... Again, oh dear facebook and that devil called 'mini feed'. I see my ex who was once upon a time my best friend (i.e., meaning it was easier attempting friendship years later than other exes) comments on a female ex-best friend's status. I'm thinking to myself, when did they become so friendly for him to comment on her wall. Then, the second thought comes around and I'm thinking you comment on her page, but haven't spoken to me in a month. Must be the ex-radar because I received a phone call last night.



Can ex's really be friends? At what point do you stop playing in the revolving door? How do you even break it down that you have no interest in playing a role in their life or them playing a role in your life at this point? Should you have to define your relationships with people? Why do people linger, popping in and out of your life?



Those are the questions that  I ponder right now and I am in no rush to answer them just yet, just like 'his' ignored friend request and 'his' unanswered phone call.


So... Do ex's really have a sixth sense? I know I am not the only person this happens to!


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