As a single woman, the possibility that the next guy may be the "one,"
I used to say, I hate that guys judge me by appearance rather than my personality or intellect, but let's get real. I see you before I get to talk to you. Our sight is the first source of stimuli when we see someone. That's how I know whether or not I'm attracted to
So yesterday, I was at a conference at the Verizon Center with my home girl and I noticed this guy kept periodically staring at me. Wasn't my cup of tea and I should have known better to make eye contact! I kid you not, as soon as I got in line for the women's bathroom, all I heard was "excuse me." After chuckling, more from being caught off guard that this fool had the nerve to actually follow me up a thousand steps and say something, the conversation went like this:
Me: Yes
Guy: My name is "G-man", what's your name?
Me: Miss Chanelle
Guy: I saw you and wanted to get to know you. Can I call you some time?
Me: Sorry, but I don't give out my number
Guy: Well, can I give you mine
Me: Uh, sure
Guy: (Gives number) You're probably not going to call me are you?
At this point, I should have just said no. But I gave him false hope. Oh, and I really don't give out my number - reasons that will be discussed in another post, but what was I supposed to do. I should have had the courage to just say, I'm sorry, but I'm not interested. Yet, that would have been so wrong!??? Right?
I wonder how someone else would have handled an unattractive other following you to retrieve the digits? Do you pretend like you're interested? Or do you just say straight in their face, sorry, but I'll pass? Do you take rejection easily? How would you have reacted to someone saying they're not interested?
I think having a friend is ok, but i would never lead them on if they was unattractive. Sometimes pl get crazy if you reject them so I actually like your approach and if they ask why you don't give the number, then I would be like "Are you forcing me something that I don't I don't feel comfortable doing? Are you a gentleman?" Call them out on their manhood and they will bend to your will and stop asking. Hopefully you won't become uber popular and discover the secret. lol
ReplyDeleteI like the previous comment "Are you a gentleman?" because a brief question, punchy and witty in execution, can open up a mind and resonate with him for a while.
ReplyDeleteBut what about your experience?
If the guy is unattractive, reject him, but do it nicely. Guys have to learn how to deal with rejection (All of our self-help books in our relationship "canon" tell us so...they "prep" us well for these kinds of things) and we will become better guys when we face up to it.
The last time I was rejected was three years ago, and I quickly recovered and dated a much more attractive person as a result. Had I not been rejected, I may have been with the less attractive girl.
Be honest. It works out for both parties.