Girl, Let Me Tell You He Ain't Sh*t! - But You Keep Dealing With Him, SMH

Hating single girlfriend: Girl, he ain't sh*t! Leave him alone.
Girl in denial dealing w/ ain't sh*t dude: You don't know him like I know him.
Hating single girlfriend: He keeps treating you like a option. He calls and texts when he wants, but when it's time to step up, he disappears. Men only do what you allow them to do.
Girl in denial dealing w/ ain't sh*t dude: Yeah, you're right. I'm not going to talk to him any more.



2 weeks later...


Girl in denial still dealing w/ ain't sh*t dude: Girl, tell me why me & "ain't sh*t dude" was supposed to go out and he never showed up!



I think you get the drift. Every woman at some point in time will probably have the conversation above in some shape or fashion. Either she will be the supposed "hating single girlfriend" or the "woman in denial."

First, let me state for the record that just because someone is single and may offer relationship advice does not mean they're doing something wrong or that a single person's relationship advice should be deemed void and invalid because of their relationship status. That's absurd! Just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean they have discovered the magic formula to help you get a man or woman. Every person and relationship is different.


So, with that said... I shall continue.


Why is it that when a Black woman truthfully and wholeheartedly tells her friend in denial that the guy she's talking to really isn't worth sh*t, and that she should kick him to the curb and keep it moving? When she does, now she's a hater?
 

Reality Check: Some, yes some, not all, men aren't sh*t! Some women aren't sh*t! So on and so forth. Doesn't mean they don't have potential to not be so full of sh*t, but at the moment, it just ain't happening.


I love music and the Jazmin Sullivan's song "Holding You Down", particularly one line sums it up: "I'm ashamed to say that I'm the blame for how you acted... cuz I keep coming back."


If a man keeps ignoring your phone calls, but calls you when he's ready to chill. Ignores your texts, but then texts you out the blue like he didn't fall off the face of the earth for two weeks. If a man makes plans with you and on the day of those plans pulls another disappearing act. Ladies, you are an option!

Men only do what you allow them to do and treat you how you allow them to treat you. So if you're fine with being a option, go right ahead and play the fool, you might snag one. On the other end, you continuing to be a fool makes it harder for women like me to actually find a man who respects and value the woman he decides to pursue because we won't put up with the same games. Of course, at this point either he steps up or steps away, but that is to be discussed at another time.

Oh, and stop complaining about what he didn't do this time around. If his act hasn't changed after a month or so, it won't! That little bit of progress you thought you saw, is his way of doing just enough to keep you around longer. Men aren't stupid, but Women continue to be.


Am I wrong? Have you been a woman in denial, a hating single girlfriend, or a single girlfriend trying to be the light? If you are or have been the girl in denial, why do you keep going back? Should women start singing along with Keri Hilson and protest that our love indeed has a limit and it ain't being a mere option? Fellas, did I give away too much information? Have you ever been in denial before or the friend trying to help your homeboy in denial?


Honestly, I would love to know how ya'll feel about this one.