Bad Girls Club: These Girls Are Insane

Welcome to the Bad Girls Club!

So, during my break from studying, I decided to watch some television and came across Bad Girls Club. The only reason I know this show exists, is purely from Twitter. I gave the show a chance and ended up doing more screaming at them and shaking my head than I have done in a long time.


This episode was the one where Char went head to head with Nikki and threw her belongings off the balcony and into the pool and yard and the new girl Ashley arrived. Char is a character alright!


I just could not understand her logic on this episode and she seemed delusional and psycho with the monkeys following right behind her and agreeing with everything she said or decided.


Char prided herself on being the oldest of them all, yet acted like an irrational middle school girl attacking someone physically and bullying Nikki because you don't like her. Are you sure you're not 12?


Then Ashley and her friends! What was the point of your girlfriends starting drama in the house that you have to live in and they will leave. Look at the bigger picture and forsee the consequences of your and your company's actions. Ridiculous!


This show is called Bad Girls Club for a reason. They are Bad. Bad at being grown, mature women! All this drama for what? Can your life really be that boring that you need to stir up trouble?



Then, that makes me think of women in the real world who thrive on drama. Always have gossip flowing from their lips and need some type of drama to feel important. I stopped all that mess when I left 8th grade.


Ladies and gentleman, drama is not cute nor is it suitable for any self-respecting grown mature adult. Anyone over the age of 21 is too old to still resolve conflicts with the emotional and intellectual capacity of a middle-schooler. Drama is for tv and not real life. Ideal, yes. Practical, depends on the person.


Sincerely,


Drama free for 8+ years.

New Updates On Cancer From John Hopkins (Must Read)

"My people perish for a lack of knowledge." Hosea 4:6

John Hopkins Publishes Article on Cancer (A Must Read)

AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY
IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRY ('TRY', BEING THE KEY WORD) TO ELIMINATE CANCER, JOHNS HOPKINS IS FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THERE IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY .


Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins :

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer
  cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have
  multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients
  that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after
  treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the
  cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable
  size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a
  person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer
  cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and
  forming tumors.


4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has
  nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic,
  to environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing
   diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune
   system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing
  cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells
  in the bone marrow, gastrointestinal tract etc, and can
  cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars
  and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment
 with chemotherapy and radiation will often
  reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of
  chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor
  destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from
  chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either
  compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb
  to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to
    mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy.
    Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other
    sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer
    cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

*CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

a. Sugar is a
 cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off
  one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar
  substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made
  with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute
   would be Manuka honey (a New Zealand Honey - can be found at some health food stores or online {Amazon.com}) or molasses, but only in very small
   amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in
  color Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the
  gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting
  off milk and
 substituting with unsweetened soy milk cancer
  cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based
  diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken
  rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock
  antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all
  harmful, especially to people with cancer..

d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole
  grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into
  an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked
  food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live
  enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to
  cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance
  growth of healthy
 cells.. To obtain live enzymes for building
  healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most
  vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw
  vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at
  temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high
  caffeine Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer
  fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or
  filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap
  water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of
    digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the
    intestines becomes putrefied and leads to more toxic

 buildup.

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By
    refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes
    to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the
    body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system
    (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals,
    EFAs etc.) to enable the bodies own killer cells to destroy
    cancer cells.  Other supplements like vitamin E are known
    to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's
    normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or
    unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a
 disease of the mind, body, and spirit.
    A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior
   be a survivor. Anger, un-forgiveness and bitterness put
   the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to
   have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy
   life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated
    environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to
    get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen
    therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer
    cells.

1. No plastic containers in microwave.

2. No water bottles in freezer.

3. No plastic wrap in microwave.

Johns Hopkins has recently
 sent this out in its newsletters. This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well. Dioxin chemicals cause cancer, especially breast cancer. Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic. Recently, Dr Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body. Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food. You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as
 TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper.  The dioxin problem is one of the reasons.

Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave.  As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.

This is an article that should be forwarded to anyone important in your life.

Fear of Love

I find myself wanting a new relationship, yet fearing that I am not ready for one. That my heart is not yet strong enough to handle the potential heartbreak that may ensue or disappointment that this one is not the one again.


I don't think there are any set criteria of what makes a woman attractive to a man or attracts the one she is to be with forever. Some women think if they lose this amount of weight or wear this type of style that men will seek them more and more. But what type of men are we really attracting?

I know I am not attracting any right now for the very purpose stated above. I made it a point not to stand out too much with my clothing, hair style, or etc. for the simple fact that I do not want to attract attention from any man. Not right now! I feel like my life is going in so many different directions that for a relationship to take place, that would just add fuel to the huge forest fire spreading called my life.


I wonder how many women do the very same thing of making themselves not look less attractive, but making sure they don't stand out more as to not draw the opposite sex's attention.


But don't get me wrong! I can not tell you how many times men have hollered at me when I thought I look busted! Scarf on my head (I was headed to the braiding salon) or clothes were raggedy (just ran to the store), but when I actually dressed up and was on my 'A'-game... Nothing!


Either self-esteem is way down, confidence is poor, or they are just stereotyping certain looks of women as easy or needs more work put in. I'm not going to lie, I don't even acknowledge men who holler at me because as a lady you only holler at little kids and dogs.


That's neither here nor there. I am apprehensive about finding true love. About an endearing, loving, and amazing man finding me. The fear of screwing up what could be a great relationship turned marriage. Oh man! I say, not right now, but soon. It is a fear I look forward to conquering head on, because I can only ask myself one question: What is the worse that can happen?

You Won't Help Me, But You Want My Help??? Come Again!?

Whatever happened to the good ole days when people actually helped other people?!! Is it just me or does everyone have a "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality. Everyone wants help, but no one willing to give help.


This is one of those things that I keep running into time and time again. There are still a very few that are willing to help their fellow sisters and brothers, then there are the one's who will help you, but make sure you realize how much of a burden it is that they are helping you. I am really baffled by this phenomena.


Everyone expects you to make it, but no one will lend a helping hand. It is almost as if you have to create your own success story. When you create it the very people who wouldn't help you or felt burdened by doing so will be the same ones trying to be in the lime light sharing center stage with you. This is a crazy!! I can't pretend like I have not been in one of these categories before, but let me preface that by saying there is a difference between people who want you to do everything for them and people who genuinely need a little help so that they can do for themselves.


I fall in the category of people who genuinely need help. Yet, everywhere I turn it seems to come from the people I least expect it. The one's I do expect help from, my family and close friends, seem caught up in their own world and too busy to assist. Guarantee you, when I get that law degree people are going to want free legal counsel. *Le sigh*


What happened to the barter system in the Black community?! You do a service for me, I do a service for you. Now, it's all about money and every one is trying to get paid. Little do these people know you can't take money to the grave and you make more friends and money by offering services for free than you do charging ridiculous amounts of money in a recession!



I'm one of those women who plan to earn my first million by 30, but not at the expense of ripping my people off. I rather not sale my soul to gain the riches of the world.


I wonder where those few men and women, regardless of race, that believe in this barter system. That believe in collective service sharing and building businesses together. IF you are one of those people, let me know. It's time to start a revolution and only those who believe in communal success need to put on their boots and prepare to take over the world.


We need to go back to the day where people knew how to get by on a little to gain a lot. Somehow the mentality of young professionals are so corrupt by the fallacy of riches in today's society that most of them will end up poor. Poor in their pocket, soul, heart, or mind. The definition of community is dwindling and we need to save it if we are to prosper and improve the lives of those closest to us.


I know I'm ready to build an empire. The question is: Are you?

My Princess Boy: Let Your Son Wear A Dress If He Wants Too! Why Not???

 Every woman has thought about her future, whether she wants kids, and how she would want to raise her kids. The thing is, usually we don't take into account that we cannot control who are kids will be, their personality, or whether they will be nerdy or the so called "cool" kid.

This morning I was listening to Russ Par Morning Show on 93.9 and they were interviewing the mother and author of "My Princess Boy," Cheryl Kilodavis. I hope that was it if not then its another woman.


While they were interviewing her on the reasons she allowed to let her son dress up and play with traditionally girl clothing and toys, you could hear the attitudes, judgements, and ignorance in their voice.

As a 1 year psych major, (sorry I couldn't hack it) I learned that behavior is learned. We believe what we believe through socialization and societal norms reinforce those beliefs. With that said, it troubled me when their explanation for why she should not let her child play dress up with traditionally girl clothing was he was not supposed to, he is a boy.


Knowledge is power. The lack of it is the reason people get stuck in the myopic state, participate in group think, and say ignorant comments like that which fails to provide a real reason.



I hope that the knowledge I'm about to share is the same knowledge along with the attitude I have that will stay with me if my son one day once to rock mommy's 4 inch fierce stilettos. At least I know he'll be fly.


Back to the point: As children, they do not know that girls play with these toys and boys play with other toys. They don't know the difference between gender until they observe that girls don't have the same equipment as boys. Now, their curiosity is peaked. Questions begin flying. Children are a blank slate. However, when we push our societal norms and values on to them we shape them.



I remember last Thanksgiving, I was at my best friend's family house and her cousin's son was playing with his cousin's barbie doll. Mind you he has two older girl cousins (both 6 at the time) who were playing with the dolls and he's 2. He wanted to play with them. His mother came over and grabbed the doll out his hand and was upset telling us her son won't be playing with no dolls, keep that out of his hands.




I was shocked and saddened by the lack of knowledge of the fact that kids don't think too much about the gender of a doll. Kids think simple. This is a toy. Period. Also, sexual orientation is determined at a early age. So just because your son likes to play with dolls and wear make up and you think you can change that, chances are if you forbid him from engaging in his natural inclination to those objects you will cause him to repress his desires and they will manifest in another way. Probably more dangerous and harmful this time.



The whole notion of a man or child wearing a dress baffled almost every caller and the radio hosts. How fast do we forget that in the past men wore clothing that resembled dresses. In Ireland, men wear kilts some time.

Clothing does not determine our sexual orientation nor do our hobbies and what we like define who we are. When I wonder what is wrong with today's youth and the world, I realize people lack knowledge and parents/adults tend to pass along their resentment, bitterness, and negative views of the world onto their kids.




Kids are innocent. Let them stay that way. Or our future will look dimmer and dimmer. I think about this now as I think about how I want to raise my kids and how I would do it differently or the same as my mom, grandmother, and so forth. Let's do better. As a single woman, I weigh the mindsets of potential partners in my decision to date them heavily. Myopic men get the "kick rocks" from me. No shame in it all at either!



"My people perish from a lack of knowledge." - Hosea 4:6

WTH! He's STILL A Married Man!

Today in the office, a co-worker was sharing celebrity gossip and she made the statement that the guy Fantasia was dating or talking to was not bad looking.

I wouldn't be me of course if I didn't make a statement about the situation rather than just keeping it on the surface. With that said, let's dive in, shall we.


I cannot really understand why Paula Cook would lie about the separation between her and her husband. Now, my spidey senses start tingling because was it that she thought that their separation was over with her husband and that they were on the road to fixing their marriage OR was she hurt and bitter about his relationship with another woman that she wanted Fantasia to feel her pain. You know how they say, "hurt people hurt people," "misery loves company," and "the best way to hurt someone is to hit them where it hurts, in their pockets."


We may never know the truth behind the matter, but in the courtroom the judge handed down that what Mrs. Cook stated about the separation, "That was a lie." (In my Maury voice).



I'm not up to date with the whole scenario, but I pray Paula Cook does not pursue further action on Fantasia. Especially if its all about the money. The world knows you're hurt. Any woman would be, but to attempt to seek your own revenge is pointless and will not ease the pain felt by finding out your husband is with another woman.



I'm a paranoid person, so my next thought, well prior to our office discussion, was that they were acting together to get Fantasia's money. Again, I pray that is not a evil plot in play.




At the end of the day, Separation is still MARRIED! Forget how we like to spin it or what not, but he was still a married man. While we could pass judgement on Fantasia for lying that she even knew the man (which seems like a sign she knew her actions weren't right) and still engaging in a relationship with a married separated man, the truth of the matter is we all make mistakes. Our mistakes however are not revealed on such a bigger platform as celebrities. So, don't throw the first stone.




Real life example of this quote: "A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is still putting on its shoes." - Mark Twain


I will admit that I am just upset that she tattooed his freaking name on her! Come on Fanny!


Anywho, Let's stop spreading lies and half-truths like wild fire and let's spread the truth instead. Also, before you believe the stories everyone is spreading, let's check their sources and do our own research. I fall victim to this too, but as I try to do better I encourage you to do the same.

Journey of Life

Have you ever sat back and wondered what was the point of school? Now, I'm not talking math or reading, but what was the point of history, science (if you don't plan or already have a career in the field)? Most of what I was taught, I didn't learn. I can barely remember basic math in my head and usually opt for a calculator. I know, sad.


With that said, why didn't we learn taxes, financial planning, real life application to interest rates, and why didn't we learn why some of the things we were learning were going to be important? I'm sure we still wouldn't have listened if they told us, but I really wish I payed attention in English class when we learned new vocabulary words or in chemistry.

My vocabulary would be a beast right now and I would know what acid could help me break into a cheating boyfriend's apartment. Knowledge is powerful! With my mind, it would be very dangerous. I really do mean dangerous. I would love to learn to pick locks and disarm an alarm system as well break into a home. Just to say I know how, but not use it for evil. I digress.


I wish there was a askGod.com site that you could ask what is my purpose? What should my major be? Is he cheating? Should I apply for this job? Where should I go to school? What color should I dye my hair? Will my kids be decent or gorgeous? When will I get married? and actually get the answer.


I know it's not meant to be simple, but when you want and are looking for answers... It ain't so simply and you want it to be.



I might just pray for a askGod.com, but I think God knows we would just think a human was operating the system. Might destroy all of our lives. Until then, I'll keep wandering around until I find my next path. Hope too much time doesn't pass before then though. No one wants to be the One at the class reunion who didn't do much with their life in the last 5 to 10 years.